Congratulations, on having a new baby! Now what? It is very common and perpetuated by our culture to prepare to the 10th degree for the arrival of our babies. We buy all of the coolest gadgets and bottles and EVERYTHING. We take tons of classes; one on how to
breathe and one on how to breastfeed and then one on how to prepare our pet for the baby. Don’t get me wrong these are all great and very necessary depending on your circumstances. However, we never stop to ask ourselves who is going to help me when I get home. Unfortunately, we don’t live in Denmark where our partner could get 6 months paternity leave.
Who is going to cook and clean while you adjust to being a new mommy? Yes we may have our partner, sister or mom but do they know their specific role? Are they aware of the expectations? Who can you call if you need help breastfeeding? How are you going to heal AND take care of your new family? These are all very important questions. I would like to offer you a few suggestions that you should keep handy as you make preparations for your new baby.
Don’t be afraid to tell your loved ones what to do. Most friends and family will simply ask “What can I do?” During the first week of after arriving home you shouldn’t be cleaning or cooking. You should be cocooning. During the prenatal period, find three loved ones that will cook, clean, walk the dog, tend to the yard, and allow you to take a hot shower–at least during the first week.
Post the number of your OB, pediatrician, lactation counselor/consultant, doula, cloth diaper supplier, sitter and any other helpful numbers on the refrigerator. This should also be done during the prenatal period. These numbers should be close by so you don’t have to scramble to find them in the midst of your inevitable new-mommy meltdown.
Just say NO
Everyone loves a new baby, right? This translates to visitors and germs and no rest for you. It is perfectly okay to ask your parents, in-laws, co-workers, and friends, especially those living out-of-state, to stagger their visiting times. This is not the time for a family reunion. Contact Brittany at The Glow Concierge to help you plan a “Sip & See” party for everyone to meet the new baby in a few weeks. (www.theglowconcierge.com)
Nurse Nikki LLC provides home visits for postpartum and breastfeeding moms. Check out the Baby Planning tab for more info. Also check out some of the helpful books shown above.